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29Jan 2018

As those who know Me and have sessioned with Me over the years, you will know that I am generally a warm person as well as cruel and sadistic in session. I am a natural Dominatrix (its not a role for Me). It’s that combination that often makes the sessions so incredibly intoxicating for both Myself and the sub. It brings us both into a place of complete trust and freedom to both explore being human and enjoy the pain and control. It’s more intimate psychologically. In my case, giving the pain and taking the control of course. 

I can understand how many subs prefer the strict authoritarian role archetype and wish to only session with that character within safe agreed boundaries, which is at least about 40% of My client base. The other 60% are people with an interest in kink who want to explore and share it with someone who is human and able to facilitate what is discussed whilst also keeping them safe.. almost 😉 

The difference for Me is that the subs who prefer the human touch, also allow themselves to be pushed that little bit further. This results in an equally gratifying experience for both sub and Mistress. Sometimes with one of My regular long term subs W/we can session in pure silence with only his moans of pain and gratitude filling the room.

And herein lies the challenge for some subs as to where the boundaries lie…

When a sub has sessioned with a warm and cruel Mistress once or twice, I find they can often be confused by this level of humanness and connection they have both shared. They can sometimes make the mistake of thinking that Mistress is suddenly their best friend and the desire to be in touch with Her all the time (due to the connection and bond they have made in session) can be overwhelming and confusing. The difference is from a Dominas perspective is that as much as She too holds that bond and connection with her adoring sub, she also holds many different connections with other adoring subs from her stable, in a unique way with each one.

Some subs can feel put out by this and become insecure and even appear needy. I can understand why this is the case. They’ve gone from deep connection to sudden withdrawal and sub drop. What they don’t realise is that Dommes also have Domme drop. We also have to learn from very early on as a pro Dominatrix to withdraw and take care of Our own well-being when We hit Domme drop. This is exactly what We are also expecting our subs to do for themselves. We cant look after both of U/us in the following days after a session.

So next time you have a session with a Professional Dominatrix and you find yourself in this position of sub drop or feeling insecure, just remember, its NOT the job of your Professional Mistress to fill you up emotionally or take care (mother) you in the following days after session. It is solely yours. The more you are able to care for yourself, the more your Mistress will respect you, the closer you will find yourself in session.

Don’t bother trying to buy Her time with gifts outside of session in a bid to forge a friendship. Don’t message her every day asking how She is, its just annoying and comes across as needy, insecure and codependent. This is not attractive from the perspective of an Alpha woman!

If your Mistress wants any of these things she will tell you. Don’t assume or try to force yourself into her space, mind or life.  Ultimately you’ll end up feeling rejected if you try without being asked. Save your gifts and bring them to session. Then you can make Her smile in your own private focused session time.

Each Mistress is different and each Mistress has a different boundaries. However, overall I know I share similar preferences with quite a few of My fellow Mistresses who I’ve worked with over the years in the North West.

This is not to say that We don’t forge friendships with subs after We’ve known them a while. The difference is that these subs We have chosen and they are able to self manage without Us. They are useful not needy. Did you notice I said “We have chosen”? We are the ones to choose who gets the chance, not the sub.

I hope this blog was of some use to you subs out there. That it may serve as a guide for those of you who want to session with an independent Domme without any strings or expectations.

I’m a great believer in healthy boundaries and emotional resilience.

I am available for sessions every week by appointment only 11am till late Tuesday to Friday. I also offer double Domme sessions.

Mistress Madox

24Jan 2018

Good evening subs

As a few of you may have noticed, I’ve not really been around much for the last few years. I was on a quest to utilise My business qualifications to see if I could fit into the business world as an employee. What I realised very early on was that this role was not suitable for someone with the predilections and outgoing personality that I have. I am not submissive by any means, which meant that working for an employer was damn near impossible and caused a great amount of conflict within Me. Nonetheless I pushed on through for the last couple of years and tried to fit in. The truth is, I will never fit in. I am meant to lead, not follow.

I found it excruciating to watch people day in day out passive aggressively communicating. back biting and trying to work together when none of them wanted to be there in the first place. I saw new people arrive and watched their sense of self, optimism and joy become slowly eroded. The toxicity and negativity was seeping from the walls in many of the organisations I tried. I watched big bosses controlling others who had given up their sense of self to become ‘Yes men/Women’. It was heartbreaking to watch. I would sit there seething under the surface watching how others would whisper to avoid any narcissistic injury to the powers that be of that organisation. It knocked me sick! It did not resonate with Me at all.

As you all know, in between all of this madness, I continued to session on a part time basis with my long term loyal subs who have served Me for up to 9 years or so, maybe longer. I’m sure you guys saw the shift within Me as I suffered trying to achieve a connection with what is considered as ‘normal’ working life outside of the fun in the Chambers. As much as I was excellent at My career, I was not excellent at taking orders or being asked to think ‘inside the box’. That is not my style! I’m a free thinker and a creative. My sessions are all based around letting My free thinking and creativity flow and thinking ‘outside the box’. The office life in comparison was stifling that energy.  I almost lost myself for a while.

Today I gave My notice at work. I decided that enough was enough. I refuse to work in a world of restriction, lack of creativity and control. I’m a free spirit. So this afternoon I walked away from the grey downtrodden faces and repressed angry individuals of the office world and drove to the chamber to be amongst My Mistress friends. I walked into the doors greeted by the sight of strong independent women covered in leather and latex laughing as the dungeon slave dressed as a maid wearing a humbler came through the other door. My heart warmed and I immediately felt peace and at home. The smells of the leather, the groans of the slaves, the laugher and cruel warmth of My Mistress friends filled Me with joy.

The contrast from where I had just left was surreal. I know where I belong and its not in the world I tried to fit into. Having a fancy business job and title doesn’t make a person happy. It only serves as an ego stroke. This experience has certainly changed My perspective on life. I don’t regret any of it. I have learned many painful lessons. We all have to go on a journey of self exploration at some point in our lives. To see the truth of who we are and what makes us happy. Not everyone is cut out for the 9-5 mould. I’m not!

So the good news is that I’m now back in the dungeon more or less on a full time basis by appointment only. I am open to meeting new subs, however I am low on tolerance with time wasters, so even the slightest hint of a being messed around then I will instantly bar you. I am also not one for long chats. My policy is to discuss briefly in bullet points via text or email what you wish to try in session, only then will we can speak on the phone to discuss it properly.

It’s good to be back properly this time.

By an enlightened Manchester Mistress Madox

20Aug 2017

Good evening  subs,

I’ve just finished a double mock castration session with Mistress Electra and our regular sub Buck in Manchester. We barely managed to restrain our overwhelming urges to turn a mock castration into a real one. One day we may ‘accidentally on purpose’ slip… and that will be the end of sub Bucks balls and manhood.  What a deliciously cruel thought 😀

If you’re a follower of My twitter you will have noticed it went a bit crazy this week. My return to full time sessions arrived earlier than I had anticipated; resulting in My slaves all contacting Me and booking in for sessions. Its been a crazy fun week of catching up with quite a few of you. Its ranged from outcalls for public humiliation at hotels to serious psychological, physical pleasure/pain play sessions in the dungeon.

One session was so intense that Pain Slut Willy was almost asleep in subspace by the time we reached 174 cane strokes. I decided to stop when I noticed he was struggling to continue to count in his deep subspace state.  Shortly after he just lay across the spanking bench giggling to himself saying that there is no drug in the world that could make him feel the way his Mistress does. What a compliment. One of many compliments I’ve had this week from my subs who’ve anxiously awaited my return. I may have been away a while, but I certainly haven’t lost my mojo. If anything the break has done me good and increased my appetite for kink. Its all good.

Some of My slaves have even been asking to add Me to the Mistress Chart. I’ve no idea what that is yet.

If you want to follow what I’ve been up to you can always follow my twitter feed. https://twitter.com/Mistress_madox

My repertoire of interests is diverse and always growing. I’m now also offering outcall doubles with Mistress Electra and incall dungeon doubles with the Mistresses at the Reddish Dungeon where I am resident with Princess Lucina, Mistress Luci and Mistress Courtney.

My availability at the dungeon is Tues to Fri 11-4pm by appointment only (Sessions later than this time are subject to deposit).

So my dear subs,  its great to be back! I look forward to seeing you all soon.

Manchester Mistress Madox

17May 2017
12Feb 2017

Hello subs

Just a quick blog to let you all know that almost all of my available session spaces for March have been taken up by My regular subs. I have a few appointments left from 3pm on the 10th of March in the afternoon.

So if you want to book in, book now!

I have no idea what my availability will be like in April just yet. I will post the dates on here and on Twitter when I know.

I recently posted a tweet about having a Gloryhole slave day. I’ve had an abundance of sluts wanting to be used in the box, I’m lacking a supply of willing male Tops to fill my sluts. If you are a male top and want to join in, let me know. I will see how  many candidates from both sides come forward and then decide whether its viable.

See you soon.

Mistress Madox

27Dec 2016

Good Afternoon slaves!!

It has been a while since I last blogged. Your Mistress has been very busy working away in London as you know. I have to admit, its been bloody awful being away from home and living the hotel to the office life!

What has bothered Me the most is not being here for sessions. I miss My slaves, I miss My Mistress friends, I miss My freedom and My life here in Manchester. The only positive side to being down south is the improved weather, having time to read and all that time I spend in the gym perfecting My body. I honestly feel like I’ve been living in a bubble the last few months. Thankfully that will change soon… I’m relocating back to the Manchester office from around March 2017 and am hoping to take up sessions again part time. Probably evening 5pm onwards and weekends for the next 8-12 months, at least until I have reached a place where I can reassess and make plans accordingly. For now though, My dear slaves, you will need to bear with Me. I will be back soon!

Most likely days for evening and weekend sessions from March 2017 (by appointment only) are as follows:

  • Thursdays 5-7pm
  • Saturdays – 11-4pm

Other News

I also have some availability here in Manchester over the Xmas and New Year period, especially this weekend 31st/1st. So if you are around and fancy a session, do text or email Me. Mistressmadox@gmail.com

I will be having some new pictures taken when I return, plus my web developer will be putting a new look on My website.

I hope you have all had a wonderful Xmas and wish you all a fantastic New Year in 2017.

I look forward to seeing you all soon.

Manchester Mistress Madox

 

 

01Sep 2016

Hello slaves

Availability Change

I regret to inform you all that I have been moved to London during the week with work without any set end date in sight. I’ve been promoted and moved to a new project. The first stage is supposed to end in Jan 2017. Its been my experience that once the project has finished, they usually keep you on for the next stage until completion. This means I wont be able to offer sessions for a while as I’ll be away. I will need to put My availability on hold for now.

Equipment Sale

As you all know I used to have my own expensive elite fully equipped city centre dungeon with 2 rooms. Now that I am based at elsewhere which has an abundance of equipment already lining every wall, I have not needed to bring in the boxes of things that I still had from My own dungeon. They are at still at home in storage. I’ve no time or inclination to open another dungeon at this point, so My equipment is now surplus to requirement. I have everything I need. So its time to sell what I have left in storage.

I will post the list at some point in the future of all the equipment I have for sale. I’m selling hoods, floggers, paddles, clamps, puppy harness, electrics, parachutes, ball weights, full leather body bag and much more. So if there is anything anyone wants please let me know when I post the list. I suspect they will sell quickly, so keep your eyes peeled and get your bids in quickly when the time comes.

I will see you all soon.

Mistress Madox

15Jul 2016

Well dear slaves, its My first day back at the chambers tomorrow with one of My long term loyal cross dressing bondage slaves. I cannot begin to describe how much I’ve been looking forward to coming back. The session usually starts with his transformation and moves into lots of rope bondage, face sitting with tights, torture and of course humiliation. Oh how I’ve missed playtime at the chambers! I’ve had plenty of time to think up new exciting and creative ways to control and torture you all! 🙂

If you want to book a session with Me then please check out My session availability below. I am around on a very part time basis by appointment only these days. I’m afraid my daytime availability is no longer something I can offer. I just have 2 afternoons/evenings a week and a bi weekly Saturday & Sunday.

  • Weds 5-7pm
  • Thurs 5-7pm
  • Sat 11-3pm
  • Sun 11-3pm

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New subs

I’d like to point out that I am not meeting any new subs at this time, just meeting the ones I’ve met and sessioned with in the past. This will give them a chance to catch up after My 6 month absence. I may meet new subs in the future. However if you are a new sub, be prepared for a lot of questions and hoops to jump through before I will consider you. I’m very picky about who I choose to session with. Any hint of disrespect will ruin your chances. I may be a Mistress who works in the adult industry, but I’m also a human being with feelings and boundaries. There are a lot of women in the adult industry who will allow males to treat them badly, just for the money. I don’t do this for the money, and I will NOT lower My standards as to what I believe human decency should look like, especially when it comes to interaction with potential subs. So keep that in mind before you write that email or send that text.

Hint: Be respectful and you will be respected! The last person you want to piss off is the Mistress you’re about to see or want to see. Especially if she has your balls in a vice and decides its payback time… yes I’ve done that too. <evil grin>

See you all in the dungeon soon.

Mistress Madox

01Jul 2016
Indomitable – that cannot be subdued or overcome, as persons, will, or courage; unconquerable: an indomitable warrior.

A few years ago when I owned My own chambers in Manchester, I was heavily invested in My future being in the BDSM industry on a full time basis. Unknowingly to Me, fate had other plans! Some very difficult circumstances, horribly negative experiences and increased awareness pushed Me in another direction. That direction was to utilise My incredible mind on another level, in a career that was equally as satisfying, equal if not greater in salary, safer and much more stable long term. I also knew I was so much more than just a Mistress!

It seemed a waste not to use the degree I had worked for. Obviously this put Me in a difficult position with regards to Mistressing. The pressure of trying to build My new career and manage sessions on top of other commitments was becoming too much. It was frustrating because I wanted to do both. In the end, something had to give!

Mistressing long term is not a viable career unless you want to run your own dungeon. I learned from having My own that this is not something I wish to repeat! Often times, renting out your dungeon can come with danger and drama. I’ve seen many things over the years that other Mistresses have been through. Not good either! I’d rather enjoy it as a hobby.

During My transition I toyed with the idea of quitting and even retired for a while so I could focus on my career. I wasn’t sure that I would be able to return. Thankfully I am now in a position that I return, but only on a part time basis. When I say part time, I mean by appointment only on the occasional weekday evening 4.30pm until 7pm and occasional weekend by appointment. My schedule does not afford Me the space to connect with lifestyle slaves or enjoy anything outside of the dungeon, i.e., shopping, money drop off, outdoor etc. I physically don’t have the time for anything more than dungeon sessions. This will remain consistent going forward. My free time is very precious.

Its going to take Me a little while to get some new photos and transform the look of My website. I expect by the end of August everything will be up and running. If you want to session with Me in the meantime whilst I get everything together, do drop Me an email: Mistressmadox@gmail.com There is no point calling My phone, I never answer. I do respond to texts though, with a view to calling for a phone consultation when its convenient for both parties.

So my dear slaves! See you soon.

Its great to be back!!!!

Mistress Madox

Indomitable

 

 

30Jan 2016
I have been honoured to be trained over the last 6 years by the wonderful Mistress Madox, who always continues to amaze me with her perfection.
Mistress is very powerful and could easily break me into two if she so desired but she also has wonderful control, to slowly bring a true submissive out of the dark and into her light, and this is what she has done for me, and I am eternally grateful to her, and she holds a special place in my heart.

pswbondagechair

My sessions with Mistress are never planned out, we go where mistresses passion is on that day, and the tools of delight that she has to hand. Today mistress had all her luxurious toys available to her after being in storage for a number of months, so mistress was very happy and could not decide on which of her arsenal of delights to use, so impulsively decided that ALL the toys where coming out, and I would experience the full array of nice and not so nice, spanker’s, paddles, crops, floggers and all of mistresses canes.

The equipment that Mistress has is much like herself, luxurious, quality, and very strong, and as mistress collared me and took control of my soul, I felt myself fall into my ‘happy place’, knelt at the foot of Mistresses throne.
I soon found myself in the bondage chair, restrained and full exposed, and mistress took delight as she slowly stretched my nipples, with her favourite pair of very weighty cloverleaf nipple clamps, and also stretched my testicles with lead weight after lead weight, much to mistresses amusement.

 

Mistress was happy with my desire to please her and decided that I would be rewarded with a good hard spanking, to warm me up and so moved me to the spanking bench, with my bottom on display. Slowly mistress started to spank me, gently at first until the warm glow started to spread across my cheeks, and then harder as my tolerance increased. Mistress loves to take her time and slowly raise hers slaves pain threshold,its one of her gifts, which gives her more time to enjoy her slaves discomfort.

 

spankingcaning
Mistress was in a very good mood, and started to select the next item of punishment, and I would receive at least 10 to 30 strokes of each item in her arsenal. I was to count in groups of 10 and to thank Mistress on every tenth blow. I remembered mistresses excellent training to how to use my breathing to permit the pain sensation to spread across my body, and through mistresses guidance and encouragement we worked our way through the light spanker’s, to the leather paddles, onto the hard wooden paddles and finally to the tawse, until my count reached 200.
Mistress congratulated on part one of her punishment but I was also to sample her canes today, and the punishment that I had received so far was purely the warm up.

The 200 strokes had sent me to the edge of subspace, and the subsequent 100 strokes of the various canes had me purring with delight (especially Mistresses long red handled cane, that has a special thudy feel on the buttocks, and a sudden sharp bite as it wraps round the cheek), as I floated on a soft cloud of endorphins, and whilst I was being caned a heard mistresses music change to “return to innocence”, and the lyrics made me cry as these sum up exactly how I feel towards mistress and what she has done for me, and how much respect and devotion I have for her.

Love, devotion
Love, devotion
Feeling, emotion
Feeling, emotion

Don’t be afraid to be weak
Don’t be too proud to be strong
Just look into your heart, my friend
That will be the return to yourself

The return to innocence

The return to innocence

And if you want, then start to laugh
If you must, then start to cry

Be yourself, don’t hide
Just believe in destiny

Don’t care what people say
Just follow your own way
Don’t give up and use the chance
To return to innocence

That’s not the beginning, it’s the end
That’s the return to yourself

After the emotion of the caning had passed mistress let me recover and slowly come down from my high, and moved me to the bondage bench to feel the full force of her favourite electrics. Mistress had a new toy that I have never experience before the nipple tower, which is a simple design but amazing to experience.

 

pswelectrics
Mistress attached the electrics, and fitted the nipple tower and slowly increased the intensity of the electrics which slowly stretching and releasing the pull on my nipples.
The feeling was out of this world, and I quickly fell over back into the world of subspace and was again floating in the clouds, whilst mistress guided me, controlling my breathing and electrifying my soul. I felt 7feet tall ,and there was nothing that I could not achieve. That is mistresses true gift, it would be so easy to destroy me, to make me feel worthless and belittled, but she gives me part of her strength and makes me strong, and gives me my inner confidence to conquer my inner demons that have held me back for many years. Mistress has set me free, and I can never thank her enough for what she has given me.

 

Thank you Goddess, your devoted slave PSW  (and I hope to see you again soon)